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My mother-in-law spoiled my wedding

My mother-in-law is literally a nightmare. When I was getting married, I was so afraid of her that I gave into all of her demands. Looking back, I had a dress that I didn’t really like [had to be super-conservative] a room full of her friends, a band that she chose [awful] and a zillion other little things that I really didn’t want. That, and during the ceremony, my bridesmaids came to me to tell me she was crying in the bathroom. Oh, and did I mention she boycotted the brunch the next day? If I had known her better, I would have realized that nothing would make her happy.

Common Problem. We hear stories all the time about brides and grooms that are blissfully happy until the families [on either side] get involved with the wedding planning and details. Your ability to manage that situation may predict your ability to navigate family politics together in the years to come.

Have you ever dated a guy who didn’t like his parents and you meet them and you think, “why doesn’t he like them. They are such wonderful people?” Then, six months into the relationship, you realize that they are completely awful but by that time you have become “friends” with them and it is too hard to get rid of them?

Here is our itty-bitty piece of advice on this one: If you love your bride/groom, trust their judgement and follow their lead. If they think their parents are a nightmare, chances are their opinion is a lot more fact based than yours will be. Don’t try to be the bridge-builder or healer or you will wind up sorely disappointed, as this bride found out.

So how to deal with your mother-in-law? (more…)


September 14, 2010 at 3:36 pm Leave a comment

My Groom wanted to do something for himself….

People always say that the groom sometimes gets lost in the preparations, and mine did feel lost. He decided he wanted to get his first straight edge shave on the day of the wedding and I totally thought that was a great idea. We found a woman to come to the hotel and it was awful. Something about either the razor or the soap made my husband totally break out in a rash. He looked like a 13 year old with acne in all of our pictures!

There should be no “firsts” on the day of the wedding [except, perhaps, first time getting married or first dance]. First time having your make-up done, first time trying on your wedding dress after alterations, first time wearing your wedding shoes…..all of these things should happen BEFORE the wedding and not the day of. If there is something special your groom wants to do on the day of, we get it, just make sure he has a trial run. Trust us, the potential for something going wrong totally outweighs the satisfaction he will get from whatever it is he is going to do.

August 11, 2010 at 4:10 pm Leave a comment